Kouri Richins and Why She Will Never Go Away

These days everybody has to do the disclaimers. So here goes: I am not a psychiatrist, not a psychologist, not a comedian, not a brain surgeon, not an astronaut, not a pipe welder blah blah blah. What I AM is a person with a high IQ who studies human beings, the train wreck of all time. Yes, even worse than Great White Sharks. I know the human heart is wretched. I have the Bible to back me up on that. Jeremiah said “human nature is flawed, deceitful, and prone to rationalizing self-interest or destructive behavior“. He didn’t say it exactly like that. I don’t think they even said “rationalizing” in his day, so of course, it is a TRANSLATION. He also said “the human heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked. [12]”

I have been curious in the way one looks at a train wreck, about humanity. If you haven’t noticed, we are changing and not in a good way…of COURSE. I’m going to talk about that in this opinion piece, and you can agree or disagree. I don’t care. I’ve lived long enough to be able to say that right out loud. One more disclaimer: I have a mirror. I am not perfect; in fact, just the opposite. But I am normal. I’m actually what they call ‘stoic’. And I am an introvert. So all the time, people think I don’t have feelings, only because I don’t wail and hop around when I get upset. I flip into quiet problem solving. Sometimes they feel sorry for me because I spend so much time alone. I LIKE BEING ALONE. I like me, I’m comfortable being me, I don’t want to chatter and chatter and chatter, I like to do projects, like to cook. Stuff like that. That’s how I roll. Most people are clumpers. They need to be around other people, in the thick of chaos, and wow, that’s not me. I digress, as usual.

So, Kouri. Kouri is the personification of a personality type that is becoming prevalent in America. When I was younger, I noticed it in nearly everyone in the Middle East, but hardly ever here. Over THERE, they were so unable to control their emotions, that every time something good happened, grown ass men jumped up and down and fired weapons into the air. Of course the men did it; women were under blankets. Then when something BAD happened, grown ass men jumped up and down and fired guns into the air. THEY HOPPED! IN UNISON!! Absolutely NO control of the big emotions. I remember saying, “Man, I hope that brain wiring never comes to America.” And then came the internet. Now I’m sure there were other hopping men, but back THEN we only saw the middle eastern ones. So there’s that. In any case, I believe that particular brain wiring is not contagious, it’s genetics. Except for the low IQ mules on the cart path, who do nothing but follow, all the way to the cliff.

Humans are followers, generally. Innovators and leaders are definitely the minority in the best of times. Being a leader requires the ability to think logically, to plan, a desire to plan, to want to do and be better. All of that. You can’t be lazy if you are a leader. THAT’S the main reason most people are not leaders: the lazy factor.

Back to Kouri: The Kouri types go into the hopper labeled like this: Psychopath, malignant narcissist, evil. It gets separated out from there. Any person who is 1) devoid of feelings for other human beings; 2) monstrously ambitious; 3) willing to step on drowning people to get to the top; 4) unable to accept that they are responsible for their own behavior; 5) diabolically able to act out long term plans to destroy others; 6) completely comfortable with deception and theft; 7) exceptional charmers and manipulators; 8) always disobedient; 9) fiscally and logistically (relationship) irresponsible; 10) they enjoy hurting people, EVEN if their target doesn’t know they were harmed by the perpetrator, belongs in the hopper. This happened to me. I have experienced this type.

One morning, this ‘person who shall remain unnamed’, ONCE AGAIN blamed me for something only he could have done. Frustrated, I said, “If I had that kind of power, you’d be singing soprano.” He didn’t get it, but I, on the other hand, thought I was HILARIOUS. Ultimately, he tried to destroy my life, and nearly succeeded. Why? Because I saw behind his mask and I stopped being his bank. They are BAD people. Once you are in their crosshairs, you are in true danger. It takes a lot to wrench that focus from you onto something else. Their preference is to not stop until you are destroyed. You get in the crosshairs by 1) seeing behind their mask; and 2) no longer being their best toolbox tool. Once they can no longer use you, you are in danger. And once they know YOU know, you are in danger. I made plans to leave, which I ultimately did (in the nick of time I believe), but it took a while. By the time I got out, everything I worked for my entire life was gone. Imagine.

Tree huggers aways want to say that oh they can be rehabilitated, oh they can get ‘counseling’ and be fine. Well, no. No they cannot. When they sit down with a ‘counselor’, their charm and manipulation kicks in. It’s a challenge to them. Then the lies start. God help you if they decide to blame you. They will make up ALL kinds of crap to destroy your reputation, make their counselor think YOU were the bad guy, you MADE him do it. I know. I’ve been through this. There IS no fixing them. They need to be removed from society. Prison is the only place for Kouri.

You may know that Kouri was sentenced to life in prison without possibility of parole. You may have heard Kouri say that she’s never going to stop, that she WILL go home, that she is NOT going away. What did I just tell you? She just told all thinking people exactly whom she is. THEY. NEVER. STOP. This is why I am fairly sure that yes, her sons were in danger of the same fate as their father, who died at Kouri’s hands by poison. Watch for her to harass her dead husband’s family for decades. Watch for it.

By the way, poison is one of the cruelest ways to die, and think about that. Eric knew what was behind her mask, and was locking away his wealth from her, planning a divorce. Those two things guaranteed his demise if he did not leave. And he stayed for his sons. It took too long for him to prepare his escape, and Kouri killed him. But he saved his sons’ lives, in my opinion. What a tragic situation, with one psychopath in the center: Kouri Richins.

What Love Isn’t

Somebody very important to me asked me if I knew what love is?   What a question. Of course I don’t know. I THOUGHT I did, but boy did I get schooled.

I answered, “Does anybody?”  I’m not sure about that one, actually.  My guess would be that most people haven’t given it much thought and that most people have love and lust confused.  Maybe there’s no such thing at all; maybe it’s a perfect match of one person being a host and the other a parasite…and I’m sure there are nicer WORDS for it, but you get the idea.

I’ve learned that each person’s definition of love, if they could even adequately articulate it, is as unique as that person is among the whole population of Earth.  So I ask YOU: what is love?

Think about it; before you answer ask yourself what would love look like if you took lust out of the picture.  I know, hard to imagine.  Still give it a shot.  Also take out the OBLIGATION factor; I mean love from child to parent, for example.  If not for those things, how would you describe love?

I don’t have the ‘right’ answer.  Maybe there isn’t one.  But I can talk about some things love isn’t.  First of all, it isn’t lust; it isn’t about sex.  And if you plan to build a so-called loving relationship, like marriage…on sex, forget it; it’s  not gonna work.

Love isn’t going after somebody because they have assets you’d like to take from them…things like bank accounts or properties or a nice home.  That’s not love.  That’s targeting an innocent party for your own financial gain.

Love isn’t keeping track of what someone does for you, or events for which they show up; it isn’t about the gifts they’ve given.  In other words, if love had arrows pointing, there should be one going toward oneself and one going away from oneself, or it isn’t love.  Love is not one-sided; love is not ‘taking’.  And it’s not all giving either. It HAS to be both give and take.

Love isn’t devoid of sacrifice. It’s full of sacrifice, or it should be…I think.  Love isn’t convenient.  Sometimes love means we have to break a sweat doing things we’d rather not do, for someone who simply needs us.  Sacrificial love doesn’t always show up during slack times; sometimes it shows up in the middle of a busy time.  If you can’t sacrifice even then…it isn’t love.

Love isn’t doing hurtful things when you don’t get you way or you want to do something you shouldn’t. You can’t hurt someone you love. If you DO or desire to, that’s not love.  You can’t do harm to someone you love. If that kind of behavior is in YOUR kind of love, please stay far from me. I already know you.

There is no such thing as unconditional love.  If someone says they love you unconditionally, better pat them down for your best silver or that nice ring you just bought.  There is no such thing as unconditional love.  If you aren’t getting something out of it, you’re probably comatose.   Remember there’s an arrow pointing in, too, and  if there’s not you are not human. Nobody’s that generous.

I do know this about love.  Never mind. I don’t know.