Managing Isolation

If I were a fruit, I’d be a grape. I like other fruits around me. As a real estate agent, I draw energy from being around others. I’m an introvert, though. Let’s start there. That does NOT mean I am shy; it means I don’t have to poll the universe to think things through, to process data. I do that inside my own head. I would rather have a tooth pulled than go on a cruise though, so I fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum with respect to the amount of socializing I need. Introverts are not necessarily shy and not necessarily doormats. I live inside my head a lot, but I enjoy people! I also like leaving them and going in my cave when I want cave time. I believe I’m well rounded. I’m strong, independent, glad to be me. I know people who cannot be home alone, have to be going, going, going. I don’t understand that. Sometimes, solitude is wonderful.

But not always and not chronically, like we’re having to do now. I was just thinking about the things I do to break the monotony when I’m not working in real estate, where there are periods of quiet. I’ve done a water color painting of flowers. It’s TERRIBLE. But so are the other ones I’ve done over the years. I have enough terrible paintings to do my ‘”Wall of horrible paintings by Brenda”. Yep, I’m gonna do it. It’ll be fun. I’m no painter, but it was fun doing them, and it kept me occupied.

I’ve crocheted afghans and what I all “cardi-wraps” which are basically crocheted big-scarves with pockets. They are WAY cool and fun to do. Professional? Nope, but making them kept me occupied.

Gardening…Great way to occupy time and so rewarding. I don’t enjoy it as much on 100-degree days, but again, it keeps me occupied.

Exercise. Not so great at that, but even if it is too hot outside, I can do exercises inside to increase my heart rate, and if I exercise to music, it is less like punishment and more like fun.

Stay in touch with people. I talk to my sister every day, and there are others I talk to almost every day. Look, solitary confinement is punishment. So remember to reach out. The isolation causes stress and depression, both of which can be deadly.